Women need to get their feelings out. One of the best ways to get all of these emotions out, is to write. You don't have to publish it, you don't even need to show anyone else, but to put your emotions on paper can be very healing. Writing about your birth can help you process your birth. Amazing births have emotions, traumatizing births have emotions, write all of yours down on paper.
Birth Without Fear is a huge promoter of writing and sharing your birth story. On the Birth Without Fear blog there is this amazing article about writing your birth story. This is just a snip-it of what the author SVEA BOYDA-VIKANDER has to say on the matter of writing such an intimate process.
"Women write (and share) their birth stories because they wish…
1. To educate and support other women.
“It was a true fight to keep my home birth and I want to be able to encourage women when they don’t have the support they may need.” – Tammie H.
“Writing mine… helped many of my peers see that birth is not something to be afraid of.” – Kim G (read more here).
Stories have been used to transmit knowledge since time immemorial. Narrative is a great way to make information – whether about cultural heritage or about the time it took for your cervix to dilate – interesting and memorable. Education and narrative go hand in hand. Shani says that, “…It is unfortunate that we don’t live in a culture where women gather post birth, removed from the drudgery of chores and routine, to sit around the fire under the stars with our feminine clan (including the elders and the young) and share our birth stories … Instead, too many of our stories get lost in our hearts.” BWF mamas describe the desire to share their stories to support and educate other women – not unlike the moonlit knowledge circles Shani describes.
“I wrote it for another mom who was nervous about a VBAC. It was nice knowing my story [helped] another mom to fight for what she wanted.” – Ashlee B.
“I want to [write my birth story] so that other women might find the strength to say no to things.” – Jennifer K P."
SVEA BOYDA-VIKANDER goes on to give another six reasons for women write their birth story. Her article so true, so beautiful.
But there are some women that don't feel confident to write, some simply don't like to write. That is completely understandable, if that's you then maybe you can talk to your doula. Your doula would love to hear what you have to say about your birth. She is there to support you in your decision.
Whatever your decision is, I encourage you to read the full article Why Should I Write My Birth Story.